Peg your own self-worth to internally generated values. When you peg your self-worth as a relative to those around you, life itself becomes a competition. In such a state, your accomplishments are only worthwhile so long as no one you care to impress has done better. Their improvement becomes a threat. On some level you… Continue reading Self-Worth: Internal Versus External
Category: Positive Thinking
Everything is About Me Versus Narcissism
Look at the agreement of all these spiritual traditions across cultures, continents and ages: The kingdom of heaven is within you (Christianity). By understanding the Self all this universe is known (Upanishads). Atman (individual consciousness) and Brahman (universal consciousness) are One (Vedanta). God dwells within you as you (Yoga). Look within, you are the Buddha… Continue reading Everything is About Me Versus Narcissism
Who Sets the Tone?
You do. If the conversation’s tone isn’t to your liking, it is because you have forgotten that you set the tone. When resetting the tone of a conversation, the first response you will most likely get is more of the old tone, or an outright challenge to your changing the tone (‘what made you suddenly… Continue reading Who Sets the Tone?
The Usefulness of Victimhood
Every stance we take, we take it because there is some use to us for it; even being a victim. For the purposes of this conversation, I am excluding children, the Third World, and war-torn regions… I’m talking about first world adult ‘victims’. I’m talking from personal experience. There have been times where I liked… Continue reading The Usefulness of Victimhood
Stripping Power from Others is Not Power
It is not an act of power to strip power from others. True power does not feel threatened by the empowerment of others. Women have been stripped of their power by men for ages. Women may naturally feel a reactionary urge to immasculate men, however such an urge merely mirrors the same powerless behavior that… Continue reading Stripping Power from Others is Not Power
Do We Only Focus on What's Positive?
A common (though incorrect) criticism of positive thinking is that it means one must ignore/deny negativity. Doug Krug’s excellent book, “the Missing Piece in Leadership” sums up nicely the misunderstanding and the reality: A frequently asked question is, “Are you suggesting that we only focus on the positive and ignore what’s wrong?” No. Telling the… Continue reading Do We Only Focus on What's Positive?