Category: Positive Thinking

I planted a bunch of sunflowers this year. I noticed one sunflower was having trouble standing up straight, so I put in a stake to prop it up. It continued to grow nicely just like the others. Yesterday, I remove the stake. Despite the sunflower now being considerably taller, it still leaned over. It had… Continue reading Crutches

In my 20s I spent a lot of time learning ‘positive thinking’ (for lack of a better term). I was involved in groups who loved throwing out simple statements like “your thoughts create your reality” and “whatever you resist persists”.

Peg your own self-worth to internally generated values. When you peg your self-worth as a relative to those around you, life itself becomes a competition. In such a state, your accomplishments are only worthwhile so long as no one you care to impress has done better. Their improvement becomes a threat. On some level you… Continue reading Self-Worth: Internal Versus External

You do. If the conversation’s tone isn’t to your liking, it is because you have forgotten that you set the tone. When resetting the tone of a conversation, the first response you will most likely get is more of the old tone, or an outright challenge to your changing the tone (‘what made you suddenly… Continue reading Who Sets the Tone?

Every stance we take, we take it because there is some use to us for it; even being a victim. For the purposes of this conversation, I am excluding children, the Third World, and war-torn regions… I’m talking about first world adult ‘victims’. I’m talking from personal experience. There have been times where I liked… Continue reading The Usefulness of Victimhood