Yes, things are difficult. Relationship, job, economy, planet… even hair is difficult. But look what can come from difficult times. When our founding fathers left England, surely times were difficult for them. What did they do? They created The Declaration of Independence. (Thanks, Nancy McMoneagle) Plants grow better in the presence of shit. When shit… Continue reading Difficult Times
An Example of Shifting “Can’t” Thinking
In New England in the 90’s I did a considerable amount of training/coursework around shifting mindset to achieve success. My wife and I were both trained as teachers, and I got some of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned. Here’s one: On one particular March morning, we were preparing for a new course and… Continue reading An Example of Shifting “Can’t” Thinking
Dangerous Words
Here are two: impossible and can’t. Imagine if I could travel back a brief 200 years ago and tell an average person, “what if I told you that with special boxes you could speak in such a way that millions of people— even on the other side of the planet— can hear you and see… Continue reading Dangerous Words
My Example Was Bull
If you haven’t yet read yesterday’s entry, read it first. If you found yourself agreeing with this headline after reading that post, read on. Noticing and updating unproductive habits of mind is a skill, like karate or skating, that requires starting simply, practicing often (faltering too) and always finding room for improvement. Our ego authored… Continue reading My Example Was Bull
Small Gestures and Large Habits of Mind
The best thing we can do to improve our circumstances is to observe our patterns of mind and choose which ones we want to keep and replace the others. Mental patterns are always at work; seemingly inconsequential behaviors can be indicative of a mental habit worth considering. My rural jogging route has me on a… Continue reading Small Gestures and Large Habits of Mind
When a Question is Not a Question
Questions can be used to disguise unpleasant ideas: accusation, judgment, fishing for praise, sympathy or generally seeking attention come to mind. Here are some examples: “Is that what you’re going to wear?” “Do I look [insert insult: old, fat, tired, haggard, etc.]?” “How long do you think it will take me to vacuum, wash and… Continue reading When a Question is Not a Question