The tone of any communication will eventually be met with a reciprocal tone.
It is difficult to provide anything other than a reciprocal posture. Often people reciprocate immediately. Sometimes they reciprocate after a prolonged, persistent tone.
When you go on the offense with someone, it makes it difficult for them to respond any other way but defensively.
How you communicate influences how you are treated.
If you want someone to be inquisitive with you, be inquisitive with them.
If you want someone to be disagreeable with you, be disagreeable with them.
If you want someone to consider your words closely, consider their words closely.