Motives Matter

Recently a friend was discussing the topic of timeouts for children and she described them as “abandonment”. Are timeouts really abandonment? Our lives are filled with things that can be used “for good or evil”. Are knives violent? Are cars murderous? Clearly, the answer in both cases is no— intent separates a useful knife from… Continue reading Motives Matter

Difficult Times

Yes, things are difficult. Relationship, job, economy, planet… even hair is difficult. But look what can come from difficult times. When our founding fathers left England, surely times were difficult for them. What did they do? They created The Declaration of Independence. (Thanks, Nancy McMoneagle) Plants grow better in the presence of shit. When shit… Continue reading Difficult Times

An Example of Shifting “Can’t” Thinking

Peter Fischli and David Weiss, Snowman at the Art Institute of Chicago. Courtesy of the Art Institute of Chicago.

In New England in the 90’s I did a considerable amount of training/coursework around shifting mindset to achieve success. My wife and I were both trained as teachers, and I got some of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned. Here’s one: On one particular March morning, we were preparing for a new course and… Continue reading An Example of Shifting “Can’t” Thinking

Dangerous Words

Here are two: impossible and can’t. Imagine if I could travel back a brief 200 years ago and tell an average person, “what if I told you that with special boxes you could speak in such a way that millions of people— even on the other side of the planet— can hear you and see… Continue reading Dangerous Words

My Example Was Bull

If you haven’t yet read yesterday’s entry, read it first. If you found yourself agreeing with this headline after reading that post, read on. Noticing and updating unproductive habits of mind is a skill, like karate or skating, that requires starting simply, practicing often (faltering too) and always finding room for improvement. Our ego authored… Continue reading My Example Was Bull